August Insight: Why Transitions Feel Hard—and How to Support Your Child Through Them

As the last weeks of summer roll in, many families start shifting into “fall prep” mode—new routines, changing bedtimes, back-to-school shopping, maybe even a new daycare or classroom. And while some kids jump into change with excitement, others struggle. If your child becomes clingier, more emotional, or just out of sorts this time of year, you’re not imagining it—transitions really are hard for developing brains.

Here’s why: young children depend on predictability to feel safe. Their nervous systems aren’t fully developed yet, so they look to you and their environment to help regulate. When routines shift or things feel uncertain, it’s like pulling the rug out from under them. Even positive transitions—like starting something new and exciting—can trigger stress responses.

That’s why you might see what looks like “regression” during times of change. More meltdowns, difficulty sleeping, separation anxiety. It’s not bad behavior or backsliding—it’s a signal that your child needs extra support, structure, and connection while they adjust.

So what helps? Talk about what’s coming in advance. Build in more one-on-one connection. Stick to consistent daily rhythms wherever you can (even something as simple as “we always read two books before nap” gives a child something to hold onto). And most importantly—take care of your own nervous system, too. When you stay calm and grounded, you become your child’s anchor.

I recently shared more strategies for supporting kids through transitions in this short video:
🎥 How to Help Your Toddler or Preschooler with Transitions
Whether your child is facing a big change or just struggling with the little ones (like leaving the park), this video breaks down what’s going on beneath the surface—and what actually helps.